Aoki, who is a trans woman, has said that she strives not to write just for other transgender readers, but for their family, and other people in general. Her book He Mele a Hilo was meant to chronicle the common Hawaiian experience. In addition to her book, Aoki also wrote a piece for Publishers Weekly.[5] She hopes that through writing for a general audience instead of only trans people, that she can help others see transgender people as human, she wrote: "If a trans musician can make the audience cry by playing Chopin, how else, but as a human, can she be regarded? And if a book written by a queer trans Asian American can make you think of your own beaches, your own sunsets, or the dear departed grandmother you loved so much and even now find yourself speaking to, then what more powerful statement of our common humanity can there be?"[5]
In 2009, Aoki appeared in the documentary, Diagnosing Difference, directed by filmmaker Annalise Ophelian.[14] The following year, she appeared in Angelo Madsen Minax'sRiot Acts: Flaunting Gender Deviance in Music Performance.[15] Aoki was credited as a writer in the 2019 sci-fi film, Transfinite.[16]
An interview with Aoki was featured in the 2014 book, Queer and Trans Artists of Color: Stories of Some of Our Lives, by Nia King, which was named one of The Advocate's Best Transgender Non-Fiction Books of 2014.[17] Aoki toured with the Tranny Roadshow[18][19] and the Fully Functional Cabaret,[20] creating visible performance space for trans people across the country.
In 2021, Aoki released Light from Uncommon Stars. She has described the book as being in part influenced by the story of Ted Ngoy, the Cambodian American entrepreneur known as the "Donut King", stating that she wanted "to open my own literary donut shop".[21]Kirkus Reviews described the book as "filled with mouthwatering descriptions of food and heart-swelling meditations on music".[22] Writing for Tor.com, Maya Gittelman described Light from Uncommon Stars as "often a joy to read ... also often painful to read", and being "written with profound catharsis, forgiveness when it’s due, and so, so much hope";[23] likewise, Alana Joli Abbott described the book as "an incredibly powerful story of hope and redemption" for Den of Geek.[24]
In 2023, she was also awarded the 2023 Jim Duggins, PhD Outstanding Mid-Career Novelist Prize by Lambda Literary Foundation and was given a $5000 prize.[25]
Personal life
Aoki holds a black belt in judo, which she began training in at age 9.[11] She is a former judo junior national champion and served as head judo coach at both Cornell University and UCLA.[13] As of 2021, Aoki led Supernova Martial Arts, a self-defense and martial arts program, and taught self-defense seminars in Southern California.[11] On teaching self-defense, Aoki explained:
“I feel that everybody deserves as much safety as possible, but a lot of self-defense classes when I started out had been taught by cisgender people who didn’t understand the various issues that a trans woman will face, even the type of violence, which is completely different.”[11]
