In the cowgirl position, the man is passive while the woman takes the initiative. (Illustration by Édouard-Henri Avril)

Pompoir is a sexual technique in which the woman uses her vaginal muscles to stimulate the man's penis.[1][2][3][4][5] Both partners remain still, while the woman strokes the man's erection using rhythmic, rippling pulses of the pubococcygeus muscles, so this practice is best performed in a woman on top position.

Performing Kegel or pelvic floor exercises can increase a woman's skill in pompoir by strengthening the relevant muscles, and allows her to identify, and isolate, individual muscles, to contract them in turn to provide the rippling sensation.[1][2]

The technique is also called the Singapore grip.[6][7] The title of The Singapore Grip, a novel by J. G. Farrell, as well as its 2020 television adaptation, refers to this phrase.[8]


"Kabzah" or "Kabza" (Hindi: कब्ज़ा, Urdu: قبضہ) is a variant technique that originates from South Asia, where the female additionally uses her abdominal muscle contractions to stimulate the penis of the male partner, who must remain totally passive. The word translates as "holder", and the sensation can be likened to that of "milking". Women are reported to have spent many years in training before becoming proficient in this technique, and as such this technique is considered highly difficult to perform. The act itself is a variety of tantra, its purpose being to enhance and increase the duration and intensity of intercourse.[9][10][11][12]


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It is a millenary technique of the East. It originated in India and was perfected in Thailand. The first exercises came with a transformation of the extensive preparatory tantric exercises for the Maithuna. This transformation was initially developed by the priestesses of the Great Mother temples to be used in fertility rituals. With time the technique expanded and became increasingly popular. [citation needed]

A similar exercise was developed in the 1950s by gynecologist Arnold Kegel, who in 1952 developed some exercises for women who had a problem with urinary incontinence. With the research he discovered that the pubococcygeus muscle was out of shape and not working properly. By exercising these muscles, the medical problem was solved and the potential for genital sensations and orgasm increased.[13] In part this was due to blood flow increasing in exercised muscles, and the increase in blood flow is related to the ease of arousal and orgasm. When the strength of a muscle increases, the blood supply increases, with the side effect being an increase of blood flow to the pelvis resulting in higher levels of arousal and more intense orgasms.[citation needed]


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  2. ^ a b Bobby Dempsey, Tantric Sex, David & Charles, 2007, ISBN 0-7153-2835-2, pp. 229-230
  3. ^ Suzie Heumann. "Pompoir and the mare's trick: Beyond sex positions". Retrieved 24 December 2014.
  4. ^ John, A.Pearcy. "Sivananda Yoga - Beyond sex positions". Retrieved 15 January 2015.
  5. ^ "Asanas - Beyond sex positions". Archived from the original on 27 September 2010. Retrieved 28 March 2010.
  6. ^ Ramachandran, Naman (8 September 2020). "ITV Drama 'Singapore Grip' Called 'Harmful Non-Representation' For Colonialism Portrayal (EXCLUSIVE)". Retrieved 24 September 2020.
  7. ^ "The title references a slang phrase for a sexual technique said to be used by local sex workers". 8 September 2020.
  8. ^ "What is the 'Singapore Grip'? The meaning behind the name of ITV's new period drama". Radio Times. Retrieved 24 September 2020.
  9. ^ Kick, Russ, ed. (2006) Everything You Know about Sex Is Wrong: the Disinformation guide to the extremes of human sexuality (and everything in between). New York: The Disinformation Company ISBN 1-932857-17-6; p. 125.
  10. ^ Love, Brenda (1992) The Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices. Fort Lee, NJ: Barricade Books ISBN 1-56980-011-1; p. 146.
  11. ^ Quentin, Rod (2001) The Art of Sex. (Body Works.) Sheffield: Quentin Publications ISBN 1-872709-10-9; p. 56.
  12. ^ Kuriansky, Judith “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tantric Sex”; p. 208.
  13. ^ Yi-Chen Huang; Ke-Vin Chang (2022). "Kegel Exercises". National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI). PMID 32310358. Retrieved 11 August 2020.

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