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'''Self-pity''' is an [[emotion]] in which one feels self-centered [[Sorrow (emotion)|sorrow]] and [[pity]] toward the self regarding one's own internal and external experiences of suffering.<ref name=":0" /> Self-pity has also been defined as an emotion "directed towards others with the goal of [[Attention seeking|attracting attention]], [[empathy]], or help" <ref name=":0">((cite journal|last=Stober|first=J|year=2003|title=Self-Pity: Exploring the Links to Personality, Control Beliefs, and Anger|url=http://kar.kent.ac.uk/4477/1/Stoeber_Self-Pity_2003.pdf|journal=Journal of Personality|volume=71|issue=2|pages=183–220|doi=10.1111/1467-6494.7102004))</ref><ref>((Cite web|url=https://www.researchgate.net/publication/330203988_Self-Pity_and_The_Knot_Theory_of_Mind|title=Self-Pity and The Knot Theory of Mind|last=Petric|first=Domina|date=January 2019|website=ResearchGate))</ref>

==Description==
The feeling of self-pity typically arises when an individual attributes failures to external factors perceived as uncontrollable.<ref>((Cite journal|last=Weiner|first=Bernard|date=2014-10-01|title=The Attribution Approach to Emotion and Motivation: History, Hypotheses, Home Runs, Headaches/Heartaches|url=https://doi.org/10.1177/1754073914534502|journal=Emotion Review|language=en|volume=6|issue=4|pages=353–361|doi=10.1177/1754073914534502|issn=1754-0739))</ref> Although the primary focus of self-pity is on the [[Psychology of self|self]] and one's own emotions, it has a strong [[Interpersonal relationship|interpersonal]] component as well. In addition to [[loneliness]], subjects may also feel "[[envy]], blame, [[anger]], and [[hostility]] directed towards others".<ref name=":0" />

However, it is also very common for  people suffering from self-pity to deflect criticism of themselves; they are usually incapable of [[self-reflection]] and blame their bad situation only on external factors, such as bad luck or other people's supposed resentment.((Citation needed|date=March 2020))

Self-pity is different from [[self-compassion]], which consists of extending [[compassion]] to oneself in cases of failure or general [[suffering]].

== Effects ==
The research based on observation on self-pity is very slim, but the research that is available shows that self-pity can be an effect from a stressor of a dramatic event. It can also be shown that aspects of one's personality can have an effect of one's self-pity. This can also be combined with antagonistic views against others as their pity to themselves becomes jealousy to the people around.((Citation needed|date=March 2020)) Although others initially respond to self-pity with empathic concern, the interpersonal effects of frequent expression of self-pity can be detrimental. Individuals that engage in pervasive self-pity may be more likely to be rejected by their peers and may commonly be perceived as querulous.<ref name=":0" />

While looking into the science of psychology, the personalities that mostly respond to experiencing self-pity are moody and most likely experience feelings of anxiety, anger, loneliness, etc.((Citation needed|date=March 2020)) In other words, people that are {unable to self regulate} are more likely to have self-pity for the most of their lifespan.((Citation needed|date=March 2020)) There is also evidence that the effect of self-pity can depend on gender, with women being more vulnerable and more likely to go through with that cause.((Citation needed|date=March 2020))

The focus of where self-pity could rise could come from their past failings or losses and as a result could break down the mind of a person. These people in question could repeat the cycle and continue to beat themselves down to further their pain.((Citation needed|date=March 2020))

== Treatment ==
As self-pity is observed to be associated with [[Rumination (psychology)|rumination]] and [[Avoidance coping|avoidance]] coping strategies, it is an important emotional experience to acknowledge in therapeutic settings.<ref name=":0" /> When someone goes through the effects of self-pity, it has been seen that these effects can be subsided if one were to think of happy thoughts during the process, it could be beneficial to them and reduce further harm.((Citation needed|date=March 2020)) With the research that is given, it is possible that it can be used to prescribe and tell the difference between a person with anxiety and a person with depression.((Citation needed|date=March 2020)) With how one would deal with self-pity, one could treat their ailment by finding some sort of relief and grow away from further pain.

==See also==
* [[Moral emotions]]
* [[Pity]]
* [[Self-conscious emotions]]
*[[Self-compassion]]
* [[Social emotions]]
* [[Victim playing]]
* [[Victim mentality]]
*[[Pity (film)|''Pity'' (film)]] – movie about the emotion

==References==
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