Dossie Easton
Dossie Easton in 2022
Dossie Easton in 2022
BornDorothy Marguerite Easton
(1944-02-26) February 26, 1944 (age 79)
Andover, Massachusetts
OccupationWriter and family therapist
SubjectBDSM and sex education

Dorothy "Dossie" Easton (born February 26, 1944), who has also written under the name Scarlet Woman, is an American author and family therapist based in San Francisco, California.[1] She is polyamorous[2] and lives in West Marin, California.[3]


Easton is a non-fiction author and poet. She has been a plenary or keynote speaker at many conferences, including conferences of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex, and the University of Hamburg.

Easton has given presentations at many colleges and universities, including University of California, Santa Cruz; Bryn Mawr College; University of California, Berkeley; Mills College; Pomona College; and San Francisco State University.

Her B.A. is from New College of California, 1975; MA in Education and Counseling from University of San Francisco, 1989; Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, 1991, USF.[4] Her bachelor's thesis was titled Sex is Nice and Pleasure is Good for You.[5] She worked at the Haight Ashbury Free Clinic Psych Annex in 1968 as a psychedelic crisis guide, and she worked with San Francisco Sex Information for several years, beginning in 1972. She had a radio show on sexuality on KPOO San Francisco from 1973 to 1975 called "Get in Touch", as Mandy Jenkins. She has worked in battered women's centers and mental health clinics in Santa Cruz, Sunnyvale, and San Francisco.

She was a member of the first board of directors of the Society of Janus in 1974, and is a life member. She is an inductee of the Society of Janus Hall of Fame.[6] She also is or has been a member of other well-known BDSM organizations such as The Outcasts, Exiles, and Black Leather Wings, a radical faerie group.

In 1969, Easton made the decision never to enter into a monogamous relationship again.[7] Her books have been cited as fundamental to the polyamory movement.

Dossie Easton has been a dedicated provider of authentic, compassionate, and respectful psychotherapy and relationship counseling for individuals exploring non-traditional lifestyles since 1962. In a 2023 talk on love, sex, polyamory, and kink Easton said that ‘those people who live in a world of limitations and fears are missing out on so much that is possible’. The statement emphasizes the idea that there is so much more to life than what can be perceived within the confines of fear and self-imposed limitations. It encourages individuals to challenge their fears and embrace a mindset that embraces possibilities and personal expansion. [8]

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Nonfiction books




  1. ^ "Dossie Easton". Poly-Friendly Professionals. Retrieved 2010-04-21.
  2. ^ Beckerman, Marty (April 23, 2009). "The Ethical Slut Returns". The Daily Beast. Retrieved 29 June 2012.
  3. ^ Tuller, David (1997-06-29). "Probing the Limits of Pleasure and Pain". San Francisco Chronicle. Retrieved 2012-08-12.
  4. ^ "Biography". Dossie Easton. Retrieved 2022-07-11.
  5. ^ Easton, Dossie and Catherine A. Liszt. The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. San Francisco: Greenery Press, 1997. p. 19.
  6. ^ "Society of Janus". Erobay. 2019-07-20. Retrieved 2020-04-21.
  7. ^ Easton, Ethical Slut, p. 10.
  8. ^ "Dossie Easton: Freedoms in Sex and Love. Exploring Polyamory with the authors of The ethical slut". International Online Sexology Supervisors. 26 June 2023.
  9. ^ The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities (1997). Open Library.
  10. ^ The Ethical Slut. Goodreads.
  11. ^ Langdridge, Darren; Barker, Meg, eds. (2007). Safe, Sane and Consensual. Basingstoke: Palgrave Macmillan. ISBN 978-0230517745.
  12. ^ Barker, Meg; Langdridge, Darren, eds. (2010). Understanding Non-Monogamies (1 ed.). New York: Routledge. ISBN 9780415800556.
  13. ^ Moon, Lyndsey, ed. (2010). "Cultural Competence with BDSM Clients". Counselling Ideologies: Queer Challenges to Heteronormativity. Farnham: Ashgate Publishing. ISBN 9780754676836. Retrieved 26 June 2019.
  14. ^ Cutas, Daniela; Chan, Sarah, eds. (2012). "Sex and Relationships: Reflections on Living Outside the Box". Families - Beyond the Nuclear Ideal. London: Bloomsbury. ISBN 9781780930138.