A cuckquean is the wife of an adulterous husband (or partner for unmarried companions), and the gender-opposite of a cuckold.[1] In evolutionary biology, the term is also applied to females who are investing parental effort in offspring that are not genetically their own. Similar prying within a family is called wittoldry.[2] The term is derived from Early Modern English dating back to AD 1562.[3][4]

Cuckqueanry as a fetish

A cuckquean fetishist is aware of her partner's activity, sometimes actively encouraging it, and derives sexual pleasure from it.[5][better source needed] Among some fetishists, the cuckquean's humiliation or victimization is a major element of the paraphilia.[6]

In the fetish cuckqueaning subculture, the male takes on the role of being sexually dominant, while the female takes on a submissive role. The wife usually only becomes involved with the man or his lover when he permits it—sometimes remaining altogether celibate.

Cuckqueanry (and cuckolding) is commonly depicted as a heteronormative sexual fantasy and/or activity played out between a husband and wife, but can involve any number of gender and sexual orientations[7][8][9] When the fetish is simply androphilic or heterosexual, the wife has sex only with her husband; when it is bi-sexual, the wife has sex with both her husband and the other woman, or only with the other woman.

The fetish specifics can range wildly. Sometimes the husband and his lovers can treat the cuckquean lovingly; sometimes it involves nothing but swinging, swapping husbands or sharing a lover. But when it goes beyond this, the fetish can require that the cuckquean be humiliated or debased. Sometimes this may be accidental or incidental (e.g., the parties involved are too aroused to stop), but at other times the humiliation may be intentional, and the husband and his lovers act out a story or perform a ritual in which they force the cuckquean to perform humiliating acts, or enter into circumstances that debase her.

Lehmiller (2020) differentiates between fantasies about watching one's partner have sex with someone else as voyeuristic cuckolding and fantasies about having sex with someone else while one's partner watches as exhibitionistic cuckolding, with women more likely to fantasize about exhibitionistic cuckolding than to fantasize about voyeuristic cuckolding.[10]

See also

References

  1. ^ Coleman, Julie (1 January 1999). Love, Sex, and Marriage: A Historical Thesaurus. Rodopi. ISBN 9042004339. Retrieved 22 November 2016 – via Google Books.
  2. ^ Amussen, Susan D. "The Contradictions of Patriarchy in Early Modern England." (2018).
  3. ^ Heywood, John (1562). The Proverbs and Epigrams of John Heywood (A.D. 1562). p. 62 II.vi – via Google Books. Ye make hir a cookqueane, and conſume hir good.
  4. ^ Williams, Gordon (13 September 2001). A Dictionary of Sexual Language and Imagery in Shakespearean and Stuart Literature: Three Volume Set Volume I A-F Volume II G-P Volume III Q-Z. A&C Black. ISBN 9780485113938. Retrieved 22 November 2016 – via Google Books.
  5. ^ "The Life of a Cuckquean".
  6. ^ Harris, Lynn (5 September 2007). "What do you call a female cuckold?". Salon. Retrieved 19 December 2016.
  7. ^ "The Appeal, for Some, of Cuckolding | Psychology Today". www.psychologytoday.com. Retrieved 2021-06-18.
  8. ^ Lehmiller, Justin J. (2017-11-07). Tell Me What You Want. ISBN 9780738234977.
  9. ^ "Savage Love: Lesbian cuckolding and monogamy can coexist". The Georgia Straight. 2020-07-08. Retrieved 2021-06-18.
  10. ^ "How Many Women Fantasize About Cuckolding?". Sex And Psychology. 12 October 2020. Retrieved 2021-06-18.